Being uncomfortable in life is normal. You might be uncomfortable in your clothes, because of something someone said, because your day didn’t go as planned. Life can be awkward! I know this. You all know this. You might think that others are somehow better than you and that they know nothing of your uncomfortable bubble, but that’s a lie.
We’re all the same. I eagerly look for ways to get out of “discomfort” when I find myself there. I find one common element resides with discomfort, that is, focusing on what I am lacking, what’s causing me pain, the source. There isn’t always a problem with focusing on the reason for the discomfort. It’s when we hangout in that place, staring at the problem, that we can get stuck.
I was about 8 when a friend of our family, an adult man, asked me for a goodbye kiss. I didn’t know him well and it was the last thing in the world I wanted to do.
With robot steps I moved forward and gave him a quick kiss.
No one had been there to tell me I didn’t have to. A few other incidents happened throughout my younger life. They were not abusive in nature. Just want to get that clear. All of these experiences combined together left me with the belief that if I showed up as a beautiful, feminine, vibrant woman I was doing something bad and something bad would happen.
Not an empowering belief to hold!
Being your true, beautiful, shining self can feel uncomfortable and scary. It was for me because of what I believed! Many circumstances and people helped me change that belief about myself. As my story changed I became thankful for all of the uncomfortable experiences and how they had shaped me.
Now I believe that shining is a very good thing indeed, that others are responsible for their response to my shining, not me. Getting comfortable took accepting the discomfort and becoming thankful for the experience.
With love,
Amy
