You may be curious what challenges I help people overcome. Today I’d like to pull the curtain back to show you. I’ll be sharing some common challenges I help my clients with and “short form” solutions. This is just the tip of the iceberg to give you an example of what I do. Let’s go!
Challenge #1: Exhaustion
Solution: Consider what’s motivating you to work without limits. Usually there’s a belief at the root of your action. Once the belief is uprooted you can focus on the solution. Practice saying yes to what you want instead of yes to the “shoulds.” I know you can handle a lot but it will take it’s toll and isn’t a sustainable way to live.
Challenge #2: Overcommitting/Feeling Disconnected
Solution: You’ll feel less frustrated once you get comfortable setting boundaries in your professional and personal life. The key is to notice when you feel resentful or selfish in your interactions. Those feelings are often signs that you’re not addressing conflict and you’ve let people violate your values. Respect and prioritize yourself instead of seeking acceptance for your decisions.
Challenge #3: Distraction and Disorganization
Solution: Embrace structure and new habits. They will help you create more freedom. Structure helps you spend time with friends, be present with your kids or spouse, make the income you want, enjoy the quality of life you want. You get it. You don’t have to revamp your whole life to enjoy renewed focus. Start with the easiest step that comes to mind. And remember, sometimes people stay distracted and disorganized because the thought of sustaining success (that focus creates) is too scary.
Challenge #4: Afraid of dreaming big
Solution: If you don’t dream big, you don’t have to face failure, success, criticism, judgement, disappointment or anything you might fear. My encouragement for you is to start facing your fears because it’s the fastest way to grow. Make sure to start small though. Very small. Like, “I’m going to open this email but don’t have to respond to it” small. Build belief in your ability to overcome even failure. Remind yourself of people all over the world who have faced devastation and come out the other side better than before. Focus on what’s in your control right now that would help you move a tiny inch closer to the bigger dream.
Challenge #5: Making big decisions
Solution: One strategy that my clients use to become more self aware and boost confidence is breaking the decision down into tiny pieces in order to better analyze. How would the decision impact all areas of your life? Ask yourself this question as it applies to each aspect of your life, “How does that make me feel in my gut?” Consider the cost you’ll pay down the road if you don’t make the decision. Often people settle for comfort over happiness. Other questions to ask yourself are “Will this help me grow?” “Would I be proud of myself if I chose to do this?”
Challenge #6: Having Tough Conversations
Solution: Have them more often than you want to! Learn the skills it will take to make others open, receptive and willing to listen. Become a persuasive, considerate communicator. Rewire any thinking that’s trapped you into believing that when you’re direct, you’re rude, selfish, inconsiderate or ‘less than.’ Your word will come out better when you you get clear on WHY you want to have the tough conversation before you have it. Remember the goal before you speak. A good goal is mutual understanding. I learned that from my past coach, a wise man.
Challenge #7: Lack of confidence
Solution: Remember the mountains you’ve faced. Remind yourself of what you’re capable of. Do the thing you fear. You’ll be so proud. Surround yourself with support.
Challenge #8: Negativity/Judgement towards yourself
Solution: Time to practice ninja thought skills. Catch the thoughts that make you feel like you’re never enough, never doing enough. Stop tolerating them. Create a new definition for success, health and happiness. If you have to do it all and do it all perfectly, you’ll continually be disappointed with your efforts and never feel like you measure up. Focus on where you are taking action and making changes. This is quite difficult, but very helpful, for people who are used to imposing unrealistic expectations on themselves.
Challenge #9: Wanting to do it all and look perfect
Solution: Acknowledge the fact that others have fears of their own. They’re not so caught up with watching you move through life as you might think.
Challenge #10: Asking for help/Receiving help
Solution: Start with accepting yourself, weaknesses and all. Decide not to believe the stories that you are incompetent or weak when you ask for help…..that your business flow will slow down and become LESS efficient when you let others help you. Practice asking for help in small ways. If you haven’t gone out on the skinny limbs to trust others, you’ll need practice. Often they are better at doing what you thought only you could do excellently and quickly. You are worthy of attention, being supported. You are worthy of the freedom, fun, relaxation and bigger impact you want to make. The best way to get there is in collaboration with others. Asking for help feels vulnerable but you’ll seen realize that getting help feels divine.
With Love,
Amy
PS: If you’re a physician and you’re used to doing it all but you don’t want to feel stretched and unbalanced anymore, let me help. In my program called Thrive you’ll learn all of the skills and strategies you need to develop long term sustainability, personal health, family health, a positive mindset and more. Check it out here: www.doctorswhothrive.com We start early January.
Next Week’s Class: Want to improve your ability to communicate effectively and confidently ensuring your business operations flow smoothly and profitably and personal relationships flourish? I’ll help you improve your ability to be kind and straightforward at the same time, avoiding unnecessary stress, wasted time and money. Spend 1 hour with me on Wednesday, December 2nd at 6-7pm pst. Last class this year ends December 16th. Cost is $31.50 (includes gst) for public, $25 for past clients and Free for current clients.
Missed last week’s class? It was a fun discussion covering how we get disconnected to our spouses, easy steps to create connection and enjoy mutual understanding and personal happiness. You can still get the recording (video and audio). Let me know if you want it!