Secrets are costly. They can hold us back, until we’re willing to talk about them. I thought I’d share with you some of my client’s secret fears, in hopes they will help you overcome some of your own.
Robin Sharma, in his book, “The Saint, The Surfer and The CEO” writes, “All that’s not working is a gift.” He says that every thing you hate about your life, everything that irritates you or triggers you to react is a very important teacher. These things that press your buttons are leaving you clues.
My Secret Fear
For example in my own life, I hit a wall of frustration and disappointment when I was building my business. It wasn’t moving along quickly enough for my liking. The growth strategies weren’t paying off according to plan. When I took time to look more deeply at what was going on inside myself, I was surprised and embarrassed.
I realized I was secretly afraid of doing the work necessary to expand my business. I didn’t want to put in that kind of effort because I was afraid it wouldn’t pay off. I was thinking small and short term and lacked belief in myself and the law of consistency.
If you want to achieve your BIG goals you need to address your fears or they will forever hold you back.
I started working on building up my belief in myself. It’s amazing how belief in yourself catapults you to the next level of life! I’ve since helped business owners increase their revenue by over 300%. I’ve helped professional women stand for what they need and communicate respectfully and kindly in their personal and professional relationships. I’ve helped men in leadership roles provide excellent coaching to their teams and still manage to make time for their own health.
Now, take a peak into the minds of some of my clients…
My Client’s Secret Fears
I’m not enough and when I put myself out there as a business leader people will see my flaws and judge me. I just can’t be my authentic self in public. It’s too risky.
–I believe when you choose to be your best, truest self at home and in public, this act is attractive. Some people will judge you but you’ll be able to handle it. Other people will thank you.
If I ask for help, people will dismiss me or not help me. In my mind this means I’m not worthy of help, love or attention.
–I believe asking for help is one of the best ways to expedite a dream. Your worth can’t be determined by anyone else unless you let it.
I won’t be able to sustain the habits I create.
–I believe you can. Every action you take is like a vote towards your new identity. Equip yourself with a strong enough why and you’ll boost your power to sustain action.
If I’m too open and caring with my patients or my team, they’ll take advantage of my kindness and walk all over me.
–I believe you can be kind and still have boundaries. In order to be kind, you need boundaries.
If I prioritize time for myself, my kids (or grandkids) will disown me. Basically they’ll think I’m a bad parent (or grandparent). They’ll stop wanting to have a relationship with me.
–I believe you’ll be a happier person and have more to give to those people. Your focus, critical thinking and accomplishments will increase.
When I make decisions that would be good for me (instead of going along with what would keep the peace) my actions will cause others stress.
–I believe the stories you tell yourself cause you more stress than if you just trusted yourself. Your current comfort isn’t the same as your happiness. There’s a big difference!!
Business profit will decrease when I step back from hands on work and take on a strategic, visionary role.
–I believe you will find the opposite is true. Hire the most competent and knowledgeable help, then be the leader they need to handle change and growth.
If I have the tough conversations with my employees, they won’t take me seriously and they won’t like me.
–I believe they will respect you more or they shouldn’t be a part of your organization. You don’t need everyone to like you. You have an opportunity to lift others up to be their full potential.
If I change as a person, my husband won’t want me anymore.
–I believe it’s your husband’s role to lift you up, love you and support you to become all that you’re meant to be, just as you do for him. The more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you.
Habits shouldn’t be so hard to maintain. If you want to discover why your effort isn’t paying off in business or the real reason why you’re not making the progress you want to make, email me. I’m known for helping my clients quickly uncover what’s been keeping them stuck, sometimes for decades.
With Love,
Amy
